Most of the time, when I feel like I’ve failed, I usually find that I’ve come short of my expectations for myself. I already know I fall short of God’s criteria (“For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God” Romans 3:23), but I’ve accepted Jesus as my savior, so I’m forgiven (“As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us” Psalm 103:12). However, I seem to set expectations for myself that I’m sure I can meet. How much greater my disappointment when I find I can’t even meet that standard!
One of the first things I do when I make a big mistake (besides cry) is sit down and remind myself that God still loves me, and my mistakes don’t change who He says I am (“Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever.“ Hebrews 13:8). Then I have to forgive myself. This can be challenging. I have to make the decision to get over it. To get up, dust myself off and not look back. Sure, I find out where I messed up, and I try never to do it again, but a big part of life is moving on and not letting your past dictate your future. Also, forgive any other people involved, or ask forgiveness, depending on the situation.
Here are some good things to remember:
- This did not surprise God. He knows we mess up, that’s why He sent His Son.
- God has already supplied the atonement for your mistake, your sins are forgiven, past, present, and future.
- The world will go on turning. It’s really nice to know I’m not the center of the universe sometimes.
- A lot of times, the problem is not nearly as bad as we make it out to be.
- It will be okay. Even in worst-case scenario, you’ll probably at least live through it.
I hope this helps you next time you feel like you’ve failed. Please comment and let me know what you think.